As asked in T84705, this is the PoC patch fixing the bug for my own use case. It's meant to be improved or rewritten.
Since 2.90.0, in the VSE, when a strip with attached transform strip is extended/shrunk using snapping on either handle, the keyframes of the related strip are also moving.
This patch uses the flag of the source strip to determine whether either handle is selected, and if so, skips offsetting of animdata.