not sure if anyone actually is interested...but I fixed the bug in the export script after fumbling around with python for 4 hours and learning the blender commands
in the file export_x.py

this is the problem, it is not giving a compatible scale + rotation, as you can see in the images the export for collada gives a different wrong animation result than what is in blender. Direct X exporter also gives the identical result

It is a valid bug, the animation sets produced on export are not valid when you have a negative axis scale and a parent object

blender knows that the part has a negative matrix, in the exporters there should be logic to detect this case and create animation sets that render the objects in the correct location